If you pay attention to any social media, you will have noticed how everyone is striving for perfection these days. Suddenly you can’t post a selfie without at least one filter to make you look better or funny. You can’t even work at home without posting a picture of your setup. Even your dog has to look perfect.
And, heck if you’re a grandparent you’d better make sure all the grandkids are smiling when you take a selfie with them.
It is fascinating how many of us so-called oldies have jumped on the social media train. Some of us with no clue what we’re doing. However, we felt it a necessary need to stay in contact with the outside world and family during COVID.
The issue that arose from that though was that we suddenly started to compare ourselves with other people and things we saw on our social media feeds. An unfair comparison I might add. The other people we see are not us, they don’t live where or how we do. Most importantly a picture may say a thousand words but it doesn’t tell the story behind the scene. So, what if you just decided to take a step away from all the competition, all that clamoring for likes and hearts?
What if you chose merely to enjoy your life without sharing it with the world? Will the kids and your friends forget you? I’m guessing, not.
Here’s how you can reclaim your life and be happier.
1. Stop judging others and yourself
You can decide right now to stop analyzing other people, looking for what’s wrong with their face or their body or their life choices. Refocus your attitude, so you stop seeing a difference as a flaw but as merely something that makes that person unique.
Let go of the urge to criticize others, and you’ll notice a flow-on effect on how you see yourself.
2. Accept your imperfection
Wanting to be the best version of yourself isn’t the same as being a perfectionist. A perfectionist is never happy with who they are, how they look, or how they’re doing. Being your best means you work hard, you try, and you don’t give up. But it doesn’t mean you blame yourself when things aren’t perfect, and you don’t take failure personally.
3. Relax and enjoy the process
Perfectionists tend to trip over every little detail and allow imperfections to spoil their lives. When you embrace imperfection as a natural part of life, it frees you up to enjoy the ride.
Obstacles become challenges that make life more enjoyable. You can slow down and notice all the good things there are in your life.
4. Adopt imperfection as a way of life
Once you make peace with imperfection, you can be a lot more objective about life. Your perspectives changes, and what once seemed overwhelmingly important suddenly doesn’t matter so much. All experiences become just another aspect of a life lived richly, that build the person you are continually becoming.
Imperfection stops being something to avoid at all costs.
Think about it like this: perfection implies stasis, something you achieve and have to tend. It’s fragile and vulnerable. It puts an end to growth.
And then what?
You don’t want to stop learning and growing and developing, do you?
Embracing imperfection means there’s always an opportunity to learn and grow and become a better person.
So show those images of yourself and your life without worrying if the setting is right ir if everyone is smiling and looks happy.
And develop the mantra of – It’s my life, my way and it is just the way I like it!
And if others don’t like what they see, they don’t have to look and don’t need to comment. Your likes are all that count not those of some unknown face in the Social Media Ether.